I noticed one of your posts about how you did with the ladies in China during some time there, and I wondered if I could ask you some questions? (By the way, great website, "Happier Back Home"! I read several articles and loved it). I've spent time in SE Asian and related to much of what you said about mosquitoes, other pests, pollution and litter.
I wondered, is it easy to approach the average Chinese girl? Are they at least polite even if they are not interested or don't speak any English? Did you meet most online or offline, social circle, or...?
Thanks in advance for any insight you might share.
OK, this is what I found...
I lived in China a few months last year. I found it was easier to find a girlfriend in China than it was in Thailand. Odd because many people claim it's the other way round [obviously I'm leaving bar girls out of the equation here].
I mostly used dating sites to meet girls. Chinese Love Links is great, but there are also good quality ladies on China Love Match. If you're a young dude then do what I did and sign up for a Chinese language course at a Chinese University - you'll be very popular! One girl I knew cooked for me - a very good sign .
I did start to meet girls in my social circle, but it takes a long time to establish these. Plus a girl you've friendzoned from Chinese Love Links or elsewhere won't introduce her to her friends if she has an interest in you for herself.
One of my lady friends did take me to a dating party (i.e. singles night). There are lots of these in China but you'll need a local to take you to one.
Some girls did approach me in the street - you could play this to your advantage if you turn up somewhere looking lost and wait for cute girls to help you out!
The biggest problem I had was just living in China - it's pretty tough given the often poor quality food ingredients, overpopulation and extreme weather! And it's a pain in the ass (and expensive) to get a long term visa. In the end I went off to enjoy the good life in Thailand .